Valentines Day: A Modern Love Letter

Illustration from Rupi Kaur (The Sun and Her Flowers)

Photo Credit: Rupi Kaur

Illustration from Rupi Kaur (The Sun and Her Flowers)

Torey Tapp, Social Media Editor

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Valentine’s day is typically centered around your loved ones and/or a significant other. But that doesn’t mean being alone isn’t a beautiful thing. Finding comfort and empowerment unaccompanied is just as an important skill as social skills.

Isolation is okay!

Understand you are just as important alone as you are when apart of a crowd or being in a relationship.

Your voice can be just as loud and impacting. Your value is no different because you come first.

Our lives are crazy enough sometimes it’s nice to hear nothing but your own thoughts. This can be the hardest to remember sometimes because our lives are constantly revolving around others. But always come back to where you are filled with the most bliss and comfort!

Allow yourself to think independently while also being able to view the world with an open mind.

It tends to sneak up on you, but don’t confuse solitude for loneliness. Enjoy the brief escape from social interactions with external people in your life.

This feeling is most confused when we are insecure, feeling trauma, confusion or facing tribulations. It’s the hardest to feel sufficient when your alone because you’re without distraction.

In reality, you have everything you need when on your own. You know your humor, needs, and dreams better than anyone else.

Don’t forget that it’s okay to value close relationships. Just do it without looking for a home within others.

Being in a relationship and surrounding yourself with loved ones can be an extremely rewarding experience, but living alone, can be just as rewarding.

Finding contentment without the need to have someone else piggy back you there, shouldn’t be frowned upon. It should give you an even more positive outlook on your own well-being! Being alone can give you the chance to grow into a stronger, more independent person because you have as much potential as you allow yourself to.

Rupi Kaur, a Canadian poet, writer, illustrator and performer sets the perfect example for anyone looking for solitude through one of her own pieces of art. “It was when I stopped searching for home within others and lifted the foundations of home within myself I found there were no roots more intimate than those between a mind and body that have decided to be whole”

Loneliness doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. Space might just be what you need, or what you don’t need. As long as you are able to conduct your life by yourself you are exactly where you need to be.

Being on a team, having the most friends, having the biggest audience or being in a relationship isn’t always what’s important. It’s people who find being alone a peaceful and powerful aspect of life, who are so independently resilient.

Look forward to the growth and mindfulness that comes with getting to know yourself.

Having kind, supportive and empowering people in your life is just as important. But don’t find yourself needing people to be happy. You can do that independently because you define what happiness is.  

This Valentine’s Day find joy within yourself, be proud of it!